Question: Hi , My name is Lubna and reside in Bangalore,India.I have a 11month old son.He was born in March last year.I really hope you can help and guide me. Although it was unplanned pregnancy , we were very excited. However, I concentrated more on pregnancy and was not very well informed about parenting. Once Aahil was born, it was quite a rough ride. I wasnt able to nurse aahil for the first 2-3 months. And everyone was concentrating on that. By the time my breasts started milking the quantity wasnt sufficient and I was struggling to make him latch. He was constantly falling ill with bad stomach mostly because of change of formula brand and weather. He hardly slept and cried a lot. We were showing different doctors and everyone had a different opinion which became all the more confusing. We struggling feeding him formula with the traditional indian steel cup and spoon, which created a lot of colic in Aahils stomach. I was constantly asking the doctors for solution and which bottle will be better , the plastic or the glass ones but they discouraged use of bottles and we couldnt decide based on all negative reviews. Few months later by the time Aahil was 6-7 months I shifted to Bangalore and was staying alone with my Husband. We started only rice cereal and apple as solids as suggested by the doctor. Aahil was still very cranky . He was crying through the day and hardly slept. Putting him to bed included hours of crying . After which he slept for hardly 45 mins during the day. He used sleep at 5 am and get up by 8am post 8 in the evening,i.e.,he would be awake the entire night. There was no specific way of putting him to sleep.Anything that made him sleep I would try. Little rocking on my lap, walking around, Rocking on the swing. Finally i started looking for a sleep trainer in India. She was from Mumbai and helped online. He cried a lot during the initial days , but I kept up with the prescribed procedure, but didnt find much progress after putting so much effort and shelling out so much money. So I discontinued. My in laws were of the opinion that Aahil would settle after he grows a little older. He is now 11 months old and I am still struggling with basic things: 1. He doesn't have a proper routine 2. He is sleepy and hungry at the same time, so he cant do any one thing, due to which he becomes very cranky. 3. He struggles to poop. I tried gripe water , but after reading a pretty strong article as to how dangerous it is we discontinued it. 4. I struggle as to what to give in his diet. Online there are many indian receipes that I can find. I tried many but he is a fussy eater. I understand its normal as he is small and also teething. But due the state of being half sleepy , hungry and struggling to poop it becomes even harder. 5. He nurses to sleep. No matter if he drinks formula or eats, he nurses to sleep. I tried to slowly stop one session but he cries non stop till I nurse. Also, he doesnt sleep when he is sleepy. He yawns etc, but plays around for another 2-3 hrs even after getting on bed. He cries and finally sleeps after lot of resistance I cant differentiate when he is overtired and sleepy because of this. 6. He doesnt have a sound sleep. And sleeps only if I am next to him. At nights when he gets up for 3-4 feeds , he doesnt sleep until he holds my hand or hugs me. 7.He doesnt eat on his own also. I am still lagging with initial sleep training..and cant work on new habits like eating on own or potty training. I really I am looking forward for your help. Also I don't have much knowledge on raising kids. Can you please suggest some good parenting books from newborn to teenager-adults, activity and brain development books for raising children. I want a guide to understand what shall be introduced at which age etc. Eagerly waiting to hear from you Thanks and Warm Regards
Answer: Hi, Before answering I read your answer thrice so that I don't miss on anything. Let me assure you dear everything you said is felt by each and every new mother, we are always struggling between what is good for our baby, what best we can do etc etc. We always look for a manuscript to handle our baby, but sadly there isn't any available. The best way to handle your baby is to follow his lead. Your baby will help you more than any guide, now that's been said let's discuss your query point by point. 1) His daily routine- this is actually important as a routine helps in inculcate good habits and mannerisms in baby. Before making him follow a routine first maintain a log of his daily activities from the moment he wakes up to the time he sleeps at night. Write down every single thing he does, at what time, for how long etc etc. Soon you ll find a pattern in that. Once the pattern is discovered it will be quite easier to change it accordingly to yourself. You can start fixing time for basic things like his breakfast, bath, playtime, lunch etc. Follow this for minimum of a month because that's how long it takes to build a habit. 2) Hunger- Don't wait uo for him to demand food or milk. Give him something to eat at every 2-3 hours. Don't repeat the food. Try to give as many options as you can give.Dont be disheartened or frustrated if he doesn't finishes his meal. Fix a place for his meals. It could be a high chair/booster chair anything which is feasible. While he is eating his food never distract him with TV or phone or any other gadgets or games. Let him play with food, Don't be in a haste to finish his meal , let him take his time. Meal times are supposed to be messy. Never ever force your baby to eat. Again maintaining a log will be helpful as you ll be aware of his likes and dislikes. 3) Constipation is quite common during first year. Make him drink after at every hour. Include banana in his diet, when it comes to constipation banana is a boon. Don't give any medicine or supplements to treat constipation it will mess up his digestive system. Follow BRATS diet to treat motion related issues. Its Banana, RICE, Apple sauce and Toast. 4)Practice this method- list down all the ingredients that he has tasted and is available with you under categories such as cereals, vegetables, fruits, dairy, complex carbs, fats, proteins etc. Once the list is prepared just pull out 2 3 ingredients to make dinner. Just make simple recipes like idli, dosa pancakes khichadi soup etc , be playful with the ingredients. Keep changing the form of the ingredients as well. Like at times you can add veggies to his rice or can simply give in roasted form .some other day try soup etc. You never know in which form he might like. As for teething it a natural process more than baby parents get worked up. Keep your baby engaged teething wouldn't bother him. Kiss and hugs work like charm in this phase.
Question: Hello All, I have some doubts to clear. 1. After my C-section on 16th January. 19 I bleeded for upto 20th Feb & after that my periods not arrived yet. 2. From past three-four days my baby doesn't sleeps well during night time, he play, he shouts but not sleeps. Is it possible to fix his sleep time this early, he is just 5 month old. Last night he slept at 5am, when I try to make him sleep, he get irritated n starts crying. He is completely on breastfeed, so I doubt sometimes weather my milk is sufficient for him or should i start giving him semi-solid food. Although he is healthy n active. 3. During my pregnancy, my baby was diagnosed with hydronephrosis puj obstruction, after delivery doctor said its in mild condition & can be cure by itself but after 3 month again we have gone through some advance test n this time swelling was moderate but doctors asked us to wait for some more time n keep track on health of the baby, his one kidney is working fine n he has no issue in peeing but doctor suggested for surgery. My question is can puj obstruction be cured by itself without any surgery... I will be grateful if anyone here can clear my all the doubts. Thanks in advance🙏
Answer: Hi dear. Its normal to have irregular periods after delivery. It will take some to be regularised. Play some music to give your baby a good sleep. Giving a warm bath at night can him get a good sleep. To increase milk supply, eat a lot of garlic, fish, dry fish, especially milk shark dry fish, fruits, especially papaya, vegetables, greens, meat. Also consume sowbhagya sunthi leghiyam twice a day. For puj obstruction, monitor your baby's kidney by taking ultrasounds often. If the function is compromised, surgery is needed
Question: Hii..... everyone... recently i have fallen sick with cold throat pain and allt f sneezing... my doctor had adviced ne to take panadol 2 tabs for every 8 hours... The cold had gotten bad as i also have sinus issue... with allt f contemplation i took just one tab of panadol... my question is if i avoid meds... will this harm my baby in any way.. like if i take care try home remedies and try getting better.. or just take the tab and get better soon.. coz home remedy takes time to show its result!! PS: i am doing home remedies as well to get rid of my cold.. And one more thing can i do steam inhalation 4 to 5 times a day?? Will this in any way harm my baby???
Answer: Hello dear, avoiding medication may not cause any harm to your baby but it may cause uneasiness and discomfort in you... medications help you recover sooner...so please take the medication prescribed by your doctor... And taking steam inhalation is absolutely safe during all stages of pregnancy... there's no need to worry..